according to psychologists, the mother is the one who determines an age when her child begins to eat with a spoon independently. after walking by herself, i need to challenge my daughter to another step: spoon-feeding alone! at the age of 15 months, she begins to grab the spoon when i’m feeding her. at first, i just let her hold it without putting food in it. i take another spoon for myself to feed her. she just tries to play with the spoon.
when she started to pick foods for herself using her hands, i thought, “could she wield a spoon perfectly without any help?” it’s not an easy task for a baby to spoon-feed. it’s not easy too for the mother to let her do it. i have to be ready for smearing of food on floors or walls or flapping of plate. well, it’s always a parent’s task to support and educate a child, so i’m gonna do it!
i still don’t know if she can hold the spoon better with her right hand or left. so for experimentation i let her hold it with her right hand. i put some noodles (her fave) on her plastic plate. she was smiling. maybe she’s thinking “wow, at last, my mother let me hold a spoon & eat alone”
first attempt–successful! no foods on floors. some foods on the face might do. i said “brava kiara”, and she giggled. she might probably thinking, “told you so…i can do this thing”.
she waves the spoon a lot of times. i tried to show her how to scoop the food again, and bring it to her mouth. she just looked at me and tried to weild the spoon…“ayan, kinamay na…”(she started using her bare hands)
she continues to grab and play with the food. “oh no!…patience..patience…” ( i keep saying to myself) i didn’t rail at her.
i dont need to get angry. it’s all part of the process. maybe she got tired of this difficult task. “ayan na nagkalat na sa sahig” (here it goes..food on floors)
well, that’s ok. one step at a time. i expect her not to learn right away. i’m always glad seeing my baby’s new skills and abilities each day. the main purpose is to keep my daughter’s pleasure about the process. little by little, the time of “freedom while heaving my own meal” while she eats her own food, will increase. i just have to save a lot of patience.