Stripes by Gap

2clickphotographers, pictorial, project, zendra April 14, 2020 Leave a comment

It’s Throwback Tuesday! I was five years old here.

Dress by GAP Kids, Shoes by Benetton

All Photos by 2ClickPhotography

5 Friendship Rules For Kids

kids, Uncategorized April 13, 2020 Leave a comment

Ph: Valentina Mantovani Zendra and Britthany

Here’s a look at some of the most important do’s and don’ts of friendship that is recommended for kids.

1. Friendship is 24/7

True friendships shouldn’t end over a minor offense.

“You take turns, you give each other second chances,” Bishop-Yanke says. “Kids make mistakes. You talk it out, you say what’s upsetting you. Kids need positive feedback about what they’re doing that’s hurtful.”

If your child reports that a friend said something mean, for example, encourage him to set a boundary with that friend. He could say, “If you’re going to make fun of me, I can’t hang out with you.”

“You’ve got to tell them what they’re doing and give them a chance to do something different,” she says.

2. Don’t resolve conflict through texts

Kids in upper elementary grades and older are increasingly communicating via text, but that’s not the best medium to deal with friendship problems.

“Never deal with conflict through texting,” Bishop-Yanke emphasizes. “If your friend is texting you something and she sounds upset, you should say, ‘We need to talk.’ … You can’t read feelings and tone of voice and body language in a text. That’s causing a lot of problems.”

3. Be inclusive

You don’t have to be friends with everyone, but you do need to be a friendly classmate to all.

“Kids are having a hard time playing with more than just their friends,” Bishop-Yanke says. But saying “we’re all friends here” isn’t accurate either. “We teach kids that you need to be a kind and friendly kid even to kids you’re not friends with. That doesn’t mean you have to do playdates with them, but when you’re at school they should be able to play the games you’re playing at recess.”

And encourage your kids to be friends with a variety of different kinds of children.

“Not kids that are just like their child,” she says. “The only way you learn how to get along with other people that are different than you is by being with those people.”

4. Don’t share hurtful information

What should your child do if someone says something hurtful about a friend? It’s a common scenario, Bishop-Yanke says.

“A lot of friends are going to their friends and saying, ‘Guess what so-and-so said about you?’” she says, adding that sometimes kids even do this to prevent their friends from being close with anyone else.

Instead, kids should tell the person what they’re saying about their friend isn’t nice.

“You should tell the person to stop talking about (your friend),” she says, but oftentimes kids don’t feel comfortable taking this approach. In either case, the hurtful comment that was made “should never leave your lips.”

“That would save a lot of heartache,” she says. “That information is not helpful to them in any way.”

5. Friends don’t tell friends who to play with

Conflicts often arise on the playground when friends try to tell each other who they can and can’t play with. Encourage your kids to use phrases like, “I like being your friend, but friends don’t tell friends who to play with.”

“It doesn’t mean you guys aren’t friends” if a friend wants to play with someone else sometimes, Bishop-Yanke says. When that happens, “it’s OK to play with somebody who’s not necessarily your friend. Kids need to learn how to do that.”

From: Metro Parent

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